Boundary Keepers - Janelle Bledsoe
Sandy Nichols introduced Ms. Bledsoe. She has a Bachelor's degree in Physical Education with an emphasis in Exercise Physiology & Nutrition Science from UC, Davis. In college she competed in gymnastics, power lifting and bodybuilding. She holds the 1983 Ms. Golden Bear and Ms. Yolo County Bodybuilding titles. She is completing a book, "Boundary Keepers: How to Give Your Heart without Losing Your Mind". As a member of the "Sandwich Generation", she has personal experience in sustaining a balance between caring for her daughter and aging relatives at the same time.
Ms. Bledsoe said that they estimate that 16 million Americans are 'sandwiched' between two generations: Taking care of aging parents and children. In 25 years there will be 60 million aged 66-84. It is particularly hard on women as they are expected to also continue with household duties and be a supporting wife. Women must set boundaries of what is expected of them. If you don't, you will find that you will not be able to effectively juggle all that is expected of you. Boundaries are limits of responsibilities you can meet and where others will begin. You are not being selfish, getting hurt, hurting others, becoming angry and feeling guilty if you set boundaries. People will still like you and boundaries are not permanent.
Examples of non existent boundaries are doing another person's job, working too much overtime, misplacing priorities and taking home work stress. Setting healthy boundaries involves taking care of yourself, knowing what you like, want, need and don't want; and maintaining good fitness and diet practices. When setting boundaries, be honest with yourself about your feelings and opinions and share them with others. Encourage open discussion. Focus on solutions and not problems, define where you draw the line; and, be tactful and consistent when saying NO! Keep thinking, "Just say NO!" Ms. Bledsoe may be reached for further discussion or respond to questions: coach4u@charter.net or 458-1910.