Domestic Violence - Ending the Imbalance of Power

Vernick explained that domestic violence occurs when there is an imbalance of power in a relationship. One party uses it as a means of controlling the other. Approximately one in six women is, or has been, a victim. Most people think of domestic violence as physical, but it could also be verbal, sexual, emotional/psychological or economic. The victims feel isolated and often blame themselves for their partner’s behaviour. She expressed the view that members of the public need to be supportive, especially in reassuring the victims that it is not their fault and letting them know that help is available. 

Vernick conceded that domestic violence also occurs against men. This she said, usually took the form of verbal  or psychological abuse. Because men are usually physically dominant, physical abuse is less common but it does occur and is more likely to be reactive (eg. woman slaps her partner because of something he said).

She felt that more progress could be made in the fight against domestic violence if men spoke out to other men against it. Doing this would diminish the feelings of bravado and entitlement seen in some circles.

Vernick then challenged all present to put domestic violence on their radar. This is essential she said, because too many people are living with it and they need help.

Vernick will be holding two seminars in the BVI during the week. The first which will be on Friday, 12th October at the St. George's Anglican (Episcopal) Church from 3:30pm focuses on the role of the Clergy in Dealing with Domestic Violence. The second seminar will take place on Saturday, 13th October from 9am at the Government’s Training Division's Conference Room for victims, advocates and the domestic violence support network.